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The Purpose
of Dreams
Some believe dreams to be mostly nonsense,
while others blame indigestion, or worry. I'm of a much different
mind on dreams and see them as a revealer of inner thoughts,
feelings, sensations, intuitions, and creative contents -- both
those known and unknown to the dreamer. I have become convinced
that if when one takes their dreams seriously they become a source
of tremendous benefit to our personal growth and psychological
health. I've listed several purposes of dreams below:
Dreams may show:
- the consflict, split, or merger between
the position of the unconscious and one's conscious situation,
attitude, drives, motivations, and desires.
- areas where we are non-adapted, out of
balance, immature, or in need of growth
- important information that we issed during
the day, clarify feelings and emotions, or even provide a different
viewpoint of our situation.
- us some possible consequences if we continue
on in our current direction.
- as in, recurrent dreams or nightmares,
unresolved areas which we are ignoring. The fear usually means
too great a distance between the conscious attitude and the content.
The recurrence generally means that the content is of sufficient
importance to us that its manifestation in dreams continues until
we grasp its meaning.
Understanding
the Conscious and Subconscious (Unconscious)
Conscious Process
Consciousness distinguishes between two
types of facts: 1. material facts which can be or have the potential
to be measured; and 2. psychic acts which cannot be measured
directly.
The center of consciousness is the ego,
the perceiving "I." Without there being an ego, one
cannot say that there is human consciousness as we know it in
a normal adult.
Consciousness is an intermittent and limited
function. We spend a significant part of our lives as unconscious
beings (for example, sleep). The unconscious is continuous and
vast; it is the orignial state of humankind as can clearly be
seen from the study of child development. Consciousness develops
out of the unconscious. Conscious is only able to hold a limited
number images at once; it only gives us a fragmentary picture
of reality. Consciousness is not the natural state of human beings;
it is tiring and requires the expenditure of huge amounts of
energy. Will power is the common name given to describe this
expenditure of energy by consciousness, specifically ego-consciousness.
Conscious processes are divided up into
two attitude types (Extravert and Introvert) and four functions
(Sensation, Intuition, Thinking, and Feeling). Two of the function
subserve perceptual functioning (sensing and intuition) and the
other two subserve an ordering function (thinking and feeling).
The four functions provide the ego with orientation and enable
adaption to the external environment. (For more the two attitude types and four function,
see my articles in the section "temperament and personality
typing.")
Unconscious Process
The unconscious is simply that which is
not conscious to the ego at any given moment in time. I distinguish
between a personal unconscious (those contents that were once
conscious and are now forgotten or those that were too subliminal
to be perceived or repressed out of incompatibility with the
ego) and a collective unconscious (those contents which can be
appreciated in images that are common to all cultures and in
every time period of recorded history). All contents of the personal
unconscious can potentially become conscious whereas this is
not the case regarding the collective unconscious.
One cannot directly know any content emanating
from the unconscious. The unconscious cannot be explored directly.
We infer that something was unconscious from the nature of the
content. The unconscious itself is entirely of an unknown nature.
Expressions about the unconscious are the expressions of consciousness.
In addition to dreams, most agree that
speech mistakes (so-called Freudian slips), other unwilled intrusions
such as certain facial expressions and limb movements, and emotions
are the most common manifestations of the unconscious that we
all experience at some time in our lives (for the difference
between feelings and emotions, see my paper Jung's Word Association Test with Correlation from
a Clinical Case (2005).)
While we sometimes can become aware of
the previously unconscious forces that have driven us into unconscious
action (words, deeds, and decisions) one cannot do this to any
depth without the use of dreams.
Dream Interpretation
Principles
General Guidelines
Here's some common sense rules:
1. Never force a dream interpretation.
It is the dreamer, not the interpreter, that determines if an
interpretation seems right to them.
2. Generally the most natural interpretation
is the best one. Dreams may challenge our deepest held convictions
and beliefs. To honestly look at one's dreams there must be a
committment to letting go of ego defenses.
3. The scenes, symbols, and people of our
dreams may represent subjective contents. This means that they
refer to different aspects of the dreamer's inner life and are
not to be taken literally. For example, when you see your accountant
fall off a cliff in your dream, consider that he is your inner
accounant and represent a symbol of something you don't know
about yourself and that is relevant to you or your life (for
example, money).
4. Don't judge the importance of a dream
by its length or your initial impression of its significance.
Sometimes even a dream lasting seconds or one that shows a seemingly
ordinary thing can be very important.
5. If one has two or three dreams in a
single night, consider that they may be saying the same thing
but using different symbols. Successive dreams can also tell
a story, as one would do with successive chapters in a book or
scenes in a movie.
Taking Your Dreams Seriously
Unless you take your dreams seriously a
few things generally happen:
- You won't have very many. You won't remember
the dreams you do have. The more attention paid to your dreams
the more often they occur and the greater their individual impact.
- One must record dreams for them to be
of deep benefit. Record your dreams, without thinking about their
meaning. Do this immediately upon awakening. A dream "trace"
is soon lost if we engage in other thoughts or activities.
- Sometimes a dream will reoccur till you
give it your attention. Instead of dreading reoccurring dreams,
as many do, think of it as a repeat reminder of something important.
Some dreams re-occur because they require us to make a response.
However one cannot rely on this happening so record each dream
as if it might never happen again.
- Sometimes a dream's significance is not
immediately apparent. Unless you record your dreams, there won't
be a possibility for you to later receive the interpretation
and experience the positive impact of the dream.
- Sometimes dreams rely upon other dreams
to provide the key to understanding their full significance.
- Dreams occur in series. By recording a
dream series, one's interpretations become more accurate and
beneficial.
Practical Tips
- Keep a pad and paper at your bedside.
Maybe you also need a flashlight or small light to record dreams
without awakening your partner.
- Upon awakening from a dream, record it
immediately, preferably before you get out of bed.
- Avoid any thoughts about your day, about
the meaning or interpretation of the dream, or what you need
to do in the morning until after you get your dream down
on paper.
- Jot down a few sentences about the dream's
setting (see the next section for more information on this).
The Dream's
Setting
By setting, I mean the dreamer's life
situation or internal situation at the moment of the dream. Every
dream has a life setting. The dream's setting gives us important
information about the conscious situation of the dreamer. When
the setting also involves and emotional of feeling state, I advise
a reflective meditation on one's situation and writing a few
sentences about this.
Ask yourself the following questions to
determine the setting of your dream:
- Are there any immediate situations, problems,
or circumstances that you find yourself?
- Are there any long-standing situations,
problems, or circumstances that you find yourself?
- What is your current emotional state?
- Is there a great desire you have? How
do you feel about it's current state of being fulfilled, partially
fulfilled, or unfulfilled?
- Are you suffering from unhappiness, depression,
anxiety, tension, etc.?
- Do you have a specific need for information
to solve a situation, problem, or circumstance that you find
yourself in?
The Dream's
Action
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There are an infinite number of actions
possible in a dream, just as there an infinite number of symbolic
objects in a dream. Perhaps some of these questions will help:
- Who is doing the action in your dream?
- If you are visibly recognizable in the
dream, then generally your actions as shown in the dream are
somewhat superficial actions, generally of a conscious nature.
If you consider them at face value, you'll probably understand
that they relate to something you are actually doing at present.
- If you know you are acting in a dream,
but do not see yourself, it generally means a deeper level of
action, sometimes conscious, sometimes not.
- For actions of animals and other people,
see my notes in these sections.
- What is the movement of the dreamer portrayed
in the dream? Does the movement in the dream parallel the movement
of the dreamer in real life?
- For example, movement away from something
or someone may be related to fear.
- A dream may show ambivalent or conflicting
emotions by expressing movement and it's corresponding ambivalent
emotion. For example, the dreamer may be approaching someone
but showing fear on his face.
- Sometimes the dream portrays no movement
in a situation when one would expect it, suggesting that the
dreamer has been "paralyzed" through unconscious factors
such as being emotionally blocked.
- Suppose you dream of a plane having trouble
taking off. Ask the question: Is there a direction in my life
that isn't getting off the ground?
- Suppose someone is chasing you in a dream.
Consider that this might be a call to embrace or to accept another
side of yourself or a particular emotion that you might be feeling.
Objects or
Symbols
Dream speak in symbols, like a cartoon
or a caricature would. Though we might wish it were true, there
is no universal symbol dictionary. I believe that the meaning
of the symbols in our dreams is specific to and known only with
certainty by the dreamer alone. When symbols are used in a dream,
such as a person representing a side of your own personality,
some call this a "subjective dream," as distinguished
from an "objective dreams" that speaks into the actual
events that are portrayed in the dream.
Our dreams contain an infinite number of
symbols and an an infinite number of meanings to these symbols.
Even for a particular dreamer, the same symbol can have different
meanings across dreams or in the same dream.
Let's take the dream in which you see a
policeman, or find a person know to you dressed in a policeman's
uniform. Ask yourself what does a policeman represent to me?
To most a policeman is a symbol of authority. Next ask yourself
if there are any issues in your current life situation that relate
to authority, either accepting it, rejecting it, or being ambivalent
about it. In generally, clothing in dreams represent a very important
aspect to the dream's meaning. Just as a policeman's uniform
may represent authority, a nurse's outfit may represent a helping
situation. When we're naked it may represent some aspect of feeling
exposed, either in a particular situation or emotionally.
Here's a dream Riffel describes:
Alone in my car I was following a bus down
a dirt road. The bus threw up so much dust in the air that I
could hardly see where I was driving.
- In the US, driving a car generally relates
to a conscious issue of control. The one driving is in control
of their choices. A car may represent something specific about
a person's choices.
- Buses, because they contain many people,
may relate to activities that one does in conformation to group
pressure, societal norms, or as part of an organization.
- Dust, in the context of this dream, obscured
the ability to see.
- So the evident meaning was that in the
particular situation the dreamer found himself in, if he were
to follow "the crowd" his way forward would be obscured.
This dreamer took the dream as an encouragement to withstand
group pressure and move forward in a particular endeavor that
was not particularly acceptable to his immediate community of
friends and significant others.
A Few Specific Symbols
1. Oftentimes, dreams in which there is
birth, such as a chicken laying an egg, or a baby is prominent
may relate to a new idea, action, or speak of a creativity situation.
2. A house in a dream generally speaks
of one's psychological house, the house of the "soul."
We often see different homes that we've lived in. Ask yourself,
if the home in your dream is a childhood home, or a current home.
Each of these may have different meaning that relate to an overall
sense of what you were like or struggling with at that time.
3. Water and the bodies that contain it
such as rivers, lakes, and streams generally relate to the Spirit
of God or the transcendent in a situation or person. This is
particularly true in those who are more spiritually conscious
and motivated.
4. Common symbols such as a mountain, a
log, or a closed door all share in common the ability to prevent
entrance or movement. They are obstacles and as such may point
to obstacles, both real and emotional, that "block"
our development or progress toward a goal.
5. Clothes may reflect an inner feeling,
as when what we wear tells others about how we'd like then to
see us. Clothes may also reflect how we are relating to people.
If we appear naked, it simply might mean that we are feeling
"exposed" in a particular situation.
An Example
Here's a two short dreams that a dreamer
had in one night followed by a dialogue with a dream interpreter:
In the first, he saw his left leg badly
inflamed and swollen, with red veins like dark lines running
down it. In the second picture, he saw a very poisonous spider
sitting on his briefcase.
- To draw out the meaning of the dreams,
I asked him for what purpose he used his leg. He said, "To
walk, of course." Then I asked, "Is there something
wrong with your walk -- your behavior or manner of living?"
- He was shocked and later admitted that
he had a messy situation in his life, but thought he had kept
it hidden.
- Then I asked what the briefcase represented
to him. He said, "My profession," whereupon I suggested
that even his work would be affected by his behavior.
- As a result he stopped his wrong behavior.
Before the dreams, he had rationalized that his behavior was
not that bad.
People in
Our Dreams
Introduction
People are a common occurrence in dreams.
Generally, people in dreams reflect the inner life, sometimes
showing the various parts of the dreamer's personality. Those
unfamiliar with dream interpretation, usually assume that when
they "see" another person in their dreams that the
dream was meant for that person. Then there is an eagerness to
tell the other person about it. Before you consider doing that,
understand that when you do this, that the majority of people
seen in dreams are a subjective representative rather than an
objective one.
In an objective representation, some believe
that the following test is helpful: Are the details in the dream
very specific and corresponding to something that the person
is actually doing? My best advice here is for you to check the
dream out with someone with expereince in dream interpretation
or in discerning spiritual prophecy.
Accuracy
People attributes in our dreams may represent
:
- Accurate perceptions
- Inaccurate perceptions: These may be ones
that the dreamer is either unaware of or which he is unwilling
to recognize.
Number of People
A dream may fuse multiple attributes
of a single person into one person or sometimes another visual
form such as an alien / monster / mythological figure or even
an animal. For example, a person may be portrayed as having a
head of a lion and the body of a dog to represent boldness combined
with playfulness.
Likewise a dream may separate different
people-attributes that exist in a single person into multiple
people. For example, a tearful young man having a conversation
with an older sage-like man.
The Dream Analyst
The analyst may appear in dreams, almost
always in human form, but somehow altered reflecting the dreamer's
thoughts or feeling about the analyst or the process of analysis.
Look for a symbolic representation of the office setting to identify
this as a possibility. The content-reaction to the analyst-representation
may reveal important feelings that the dreamer has about their
specific situation or the therapeutic relationship.
Ask the Key Questions
Whenever you encounter another person in
dream, ask yourself these two questions:
What is a single word that describes my
current opinion of the person?
What is the person doing in the dream that
I am doing in real-life?
The person is chosen in the dream for their
symbolic representation. We all come to associate certain people
with certain actions or characteristics. If they are known to
you, consider what the dream is saying about that person as a
reflection of a part of you. There also may be emotional considerations
that come through the dream's choice of a particular person.
For these, ask these questions:
Are there parts of that person that I admire,
that I envy, that I am jealous of?
Are their parts of the person, or the person's
action that I disagree with, think unwise, think unholy, think
is unrealistic behavior?
What is it that I feel for the person in
dream?
Dream Consideration:
A while back I had a dream of a bearded
Catholic monk. As I thought about the monk in the dream, I realized
that I felt compassion for the monk. My consideration of the
monk, related to the setting in my life at the time: rejection
by loved ones because of my faith. As I considered it further,
I viewed the monk as someone on the fringe of society, an outcast.
Also a monk is not part of society at large. They are joined
with a separate and small community. They are accepted in that
small community. Yet while the monk is an outcast from society,
they are part of something big, because the Catholic community
is big. Within their own community there are accepted and embraced.
The monk presents a paradox, an outcast who is at the same time
revered by some and fully accepted within their own community.
What you're trying to get at is a realistic
opinion of what you think of the person right now. And that's
why the single word description is important. For example, if
my overall impression of the person is that they are walking
in a fantasy, the dream may be speaking about areas of my life
that are not realistic. If my impression of the person is that
they are bad with money, that may point to a situation where
a money decision has created some type of emotional tension.
Our
Shadow Parts
Jung or his followers puts forth the idea
that each of us have parts of our ego that we have rejected because
of our upbringing environment, family, and parental influence.
The shadow theory asserts that during development these rejected
parts for an unconscious alter-ego. Furthermore it is suggested
that since these are parts of ourself that were "potentially
ego" they need to be explored and integrated once we have
sufficient maturity to do it. Because the shadow was split off
early in ego development it may represent those parts of us that
are ignored, underdeveloped, or even despised and hated. The
incorporation of shadow parts is considered a sign of emotional
health and is urged as a step toward a more integrated personality.
However since the shadow was split off at an early stage, the
idea and process of re-integrating some or all of its parts can
arouse significant anxiety, particularly when done prematurely.
When in a dream you encounter another person
whose identity is unknown to you, perhaps they represent the
parts of your personality that are under-developed, not wanted,
or areas that you are not consciously aware of. These may represent
your "shadow" or "hidden" parts. I find that
this is different from when you see yourself in a dream, as this
often represents those parts of yourself that are known. For
example, you might see yourself acting angry in a dream. As you
consider this, you understand that this is part of yourself that
you already know about, your poor control over your temper. Generally,
your known parts are under some degree of conscious control.
The same is true when you are driving car, representing the control
side of your ego.
Sometimes, the faces of people or the dreamer
is not seen in a dream. This may be how the shadow is represented.
Also the person's visual image being blurred, unrecognized, or
absent. Jung and others suggest that the shadow is typically
the same sex as the dreamer and generally the shadow's attributes
are not consciously known.
Since our shadow parts are often the exact
opposite of what we think they are, Von Franz suggests the following
to identify your shadow parts:
Whenever we are tired or under pressure,
another personality often breaks through ...You suddenly see
their shadow side coming through ...We all have our favorite
enemies, our best enemies, so to speak. They are generally our
shadows. If people do some harm to you, then it is natural that
you hate them. But is somebody doesnt do special harm to
you and you just feel so madly irritated every time that person
enters the room that you could just spit at him, then you can
be sure that is the shadow. The best way, then, is to sit down
and write a little paper on the characteristics of that person.
Then look at it and say, Thats me."
Regardless of our perception or lack of
perception of some of the people in our dreams, the shadow part
is a very real phenomena. There are parts of yourself that you
do not consciously recognize and understanding these parts is
an important step toward becoming whole.
I agree with Riffel and urge you not to
hate any part of yourself, but integrate the good from those
parts that perhaps you feel are less desirable. An example of
this is a compulsive gambler. Though this certainly is not a
productive lifestyle, there is a good side to the gambler. He
is an adventurer. He is a risk taker. But his weakness is that
he lacks discipline and risks too much. The challenge is to keep
the adventurer side while one acquires the discipline to be whole.
Likewise the one who drinks excessively may be seeking freedom
but in the wrong place. The thief may want to find good things,
but you won't get that by taking things. The
jealous person wants good for himself. The one who hates despises
evil as he sees it. The person who has a problem with lust is
attracted to beauty. In most of these examples it is the way
the person "takes" or "seizes" what is not
theirs to take that is wrong.
When an emotion such as lust is not dealt
with, it will come into our dreams. Lust is the desire for immediate
gratification by taking what is not ours to take. It is normal
to be attracted to a person who has the same qualities that we
are seeking or perhaps lacking. So though we may, on some unconscious
level want to take something in an infantile desire to incorporate
it into ourself, this is both a fantasy and a wrong. You won't
get the characteristics you lack through real or substitutionary
stealing. The legalist may give the advice to the one unable
to overcome their lusts to avoid looking. While this isn't bad
advice, in my experience this does not solve the problem. Avoidance
places a band-aid on the wound but full healing awaits the development
of the qualities that we're attracted to. Honestly look at the
qualities that you're looking for.
In our dreams we may try to "kill"
these areas of our live that we are conflicted about. Yet until
the understanding of what this means is made conscious, we'll
seldom get victory. In regard to the parts of ourselves that
we don't like or hate, Riffel suggests that oftentimes they relate
to how we process information or make decisions. He suggests
that the shadow part of a thinker may be their despised feeling
part.
Gender
in Dreams
Jung and his followers identified an unconscious
gender-specific side of people which he called the animus (male)
/ anima (female). Jungian theory asserts that males have an unconscious
female side and females have an unconscious male side. In addition
Jung asserted that there was a hierarchical schema to the unconscious
and used it therapeutically to bring some order to the healing
process. In a nutshell, he viewed the following as parts of the
unconscious proceeding from the more superficial to deeper layers:
the persona (partly conscious as well), shadow, male-female pairs
(szygy), and finally the self (representing the God part of man).
It seems to me that, in practice, this hierarchical schema does
not hold, in an orderly fashion, however as a dynamic schema
it holds heuristic value as well as being a guideline for a progressive
re-integration of unconscious parts.
People in your dreams may also represent
a side of your personality that you regard as having the opposite
gender characteristics of your self. There is a definite cultural
and generational aspect to this area of dream symbolism. There
are many characteristics that we associate with a particular
gender, such as empathy being female. It is normal and natural
for this to be manifested in the dream as a woman talking to
you, but it is inaccurate to describe empathy as your female
side or anima. Another example is strength. Are you a person
who regards strength as a male characteristic? What about gentleness,
is that female? Here's what I suggest: if you are woman, ask
yourself if there are characteristics that you associate with
maleness. Do the same if you're male.
While I agree with the general principle
that for greater personal wholeness, it is important not to reject
opposite gender attributes I reserve that the exact relationship
to one's contrasexual attributes should remain a process defined
and fleshed out in therapy.
Emotions
in Our Dreams
Some dream analysts point out the primacy
of identifying the dreamer's underlying emotional state in regard
to fully understanding the dream's meaning. The emotion may be
symbolically represented or experienced in the dream or later
on in the form of the emotions the dream experienced after awakening.
Animals
in Our Dreams
Generally, animals in our dreams represent
one of the following:
- Our emotions, such as fear, hatred, jealousy,
lust, pride, ambition, or anger.
- A personality or character trait, such
as a lion representing bravery or a fox representing slyness,
or serpent or snake representing craftiness.
- A particular animal that has some special
meaning to us, such as a family dog.
In a dream, the use of animals occurs according
to the meaning they have to the dreamer. Many have found that
while the symbol of animals is important, they are not as deeply
held or as specifically defined as the symbolic value of people
in our dreams.
It's important to observe what the animal
is doing in the dream. Being chased by an animal is quite common
and should prompt the question, "Is there anything or emotion
I'm afraid of right now?" This should be followed by the
consideration of whether the dream is suggesting that you accept
this particular emotion. Some have found that fear-provoking,
charging animals become friendly when we accept their message
about our inside state. Facing our fears can be done by confronting
the animal of our dreams upon awakening and asking, "Who
are you?"
Also consider what the animal is doing.
For instance, a cat under water, may represent feeling you have
that "just under the surface." Seeing rats running
in your home's basement may represent evil ideas or thoughts
that entered the "lower areas or levels of your life."
Dream Example
In a particular dream, I was preparing
to eat chicken. In the dream I was looking for dark meat but
could not find it. Instead I chose shrimp.
- Relating to my particular life situation
at the time, the most likely meaning of "preparing to eat
chicken," was that I [probable a fairly superficial part
of myself, not a deep unconscious fearful part, since I was visible
in the dream] was ready to make an upcoming decision despite
fear about it.
- The "looking for dark meat and choosing
shrimp" perhaps meant that I still had ambivalent feelings
about embracing my fear. Perhaps I was looking for an excuse
not to eat chicken. The dark meat was an excuse, a way of covering
up my ambivalence on not confronting my fear.
Actions in
Our Dreams
Sometimes your actions in a dream are done
secretly, with fear of being caught. Ask yourself, are their
areas of my life that I fear might be exposed.
Let's say that there are actors in your
dream. Does their presence in the dream mean that in order to
get something or become something you need to put on an act or
where a disguise?
Sometimes there are problems in your dream.
Ask yourself or the problems that faced with the dream? In a
particular dream, my plane would not take off. My daughter, a
child, recognized the problem, while an adult, the plane's pilot,
either didn't know what was wrong or was covering it up. The
pilot is one who has authority over the plane. Maybe I should
listen to the child side of me, rather than the authority side.
Sometimes the height of something can
signify its position in your subconscious mind. Sometimes flying
refers to fantasy, or new thoughts, ideas, or relates to the
spiritual realm.
Falling
often indicates that we are "not on firm ground" psychologically
speaking. There are areas of our life that we are not dealing
with. If you are hanging onto something to keep from falling,
it may indicate that you are barely hanging on to a bit of growth
that has taken place in your life.
Notes
1. This paper life freely adapted
and excerpted materials from the writings of Herman Riffel.
Copyright
2001, 2005, 2006 Robert I. Winer, M.D.
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